Being married to Chris #3

So last night we had our discouragingly common tiffs again. We were finishing dinner, and Chris opened a letter from a foreclosure agency and commented that he should send this to our realtor Alex. I asked him if he has noticed advertisements about companies that buy houses, because I noticed a van with an ad on its sides about a company that buys houses whatever the condition. And then BAM he snappily said that we already have a realtor, so I told him  it was just a question, then he continued that he can only do one thing at a time. Which irked me because all I had was  a question and he just had to be so snippy and patronizing  about it. Simultaneously I realized and answered him that he was reading something out of a simple question. He didn't answer back. But I was too ticked already so I was morose again and brooding again. I can only take a few minutes in his presence so I left the living room with Nathaniel and stayed in our bedroom for the remainder of the evening until everyone was in bed.***In truth I don't know how long I can take this kind of behavior from him. Its so irksome and I always feel miserable. I am not the type to tolerate misery for long. So I sent him an email about how I'm feeling and sent it to our gmail and his cox email. I reminded him to tell me or email me his response to my missive. My hope is that he will find the motivation to change.***On my part this weekend I asked him if my zoning out really bothers him. He said that it does, and he feels that I am not listening to him or paying him any attention, and he added that he doesn't like when I get stressed out and tells him what to do because then it sounds abrupt and demanding. Hearing him felt like a jagged pill I have to swallow. I had to  pound on my pride to submission or then I will feel angry and betrayed by his honesty. So I accepted my shortcomings and clarified from him what he wanted me to sound and act and talk to him. I had to pray to Mary that my pride will not seek retaliation.  Since then I have been trying to keep what he wants in mind. Responding to his conversation, participating in a conversation, and when I ask him to do something to be always courteous and grateful (like Shirley, I'm sure!)